From struggling to self belief
Have you ever looked around and felt like you weren’t enough, or didn’t have enough? Like others around you have it all figured out — and you were somehow left behind?
I get it. As I approached my 40th birthday, that’s exactly where I found myself. I had spent the former part of my adult “working” life, instead chasing waves on tropical islands. When I moved to Australia in my early 30’s, I let life just happen, and through Covid and becoming a Mother, eventually lost sight of my aspirations and some life-long dreams. I became weighed down by comparison and the pressure of time, and my past mistakes and failures haunted me. I felt like I needed to start over RIGHT NOW, or it’d be too late.
But here’s the truth I’ve discovered — and one I want to share with you:
1. It’s Never Too Late to Choose a New Path
Every single day, we’re given choices — small and big — that can move us closer to the life we want to live. It’s not about waking up one day with all the answers. It’s about realising that you’re allowed to start again. To want something different. To dream bigger — even at 40, 50, or 70.
If you’ve ever looked at someone else’s life and thought, “Why not me?” — this is your reminder: it can be you. You are worthy. You don’t need to wait for permission, or a perfect plan. You just need to start choosing in alignment with who you truly are.
2. Your Life Doesn’t Have to Look Like Anyone Else’s
One of the traps I fell into was comparison — especially as I saw friends settling into “stable” lives, while I looked back at a decade of surfboards, beach mornings, and a nomadic rhythm. I worried I had nothing to show for those years.
But over time, I came to understand: There is no one right way to live. There’s value in both structure and spontaneity, in carefully-laid plans and bold leaps of faith. We each carry a different rhythm — and comparing one path to another only steals the joy from your own.
If you’re feeling behind, ask yourself: Who set the timeline I’m trying to follow? Because the truth is, milestones tied to age are made up. There is no deadline for becoming who you’re meant to be.
3. Growth Takes Time — and That’s Okay
In a world obsessed with quick wins and overnight success, it’s easy to feel discouraged when change feels slow. But real growth? It’s layered. It’s quiet. It unfolds one decision, one habit, one act of courage at a time.
You don’t have to know it all. You just need to keep going — step by step, day by day. It’s not about perfection, but about staying true to your inner compass, even when things feel uncertain.
Turning 40 didn’t change my life. I didn’t magically hit a wall that forced me to turn right or left, and time will continue on. What did change was my perspective, as I realised my birthday was just another day.
Through dreaming big, failing, succeeding at times, losing myself, and continuing to experiment, I’m inspired to share my experiences and to keep moving forward, together.
So, welcome to Live Simply, Stay Salty — a space for reimagining what’s possible, for tuning out the noise, and tuning back into you. We’ll talk self-development and mindset shifts, simple living, and the deep joy that comes from living in alignment.
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